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Emily Post was the American guru of politeness, who taught people everything from table manners to appropriate dress. As American society became less formal, standards of behavior along with dress codes became more relaxed. Although learning etiquette is now more difficult than it was in the days of Emily Post, you need to acquire certain codes of behavior and dress in order to do well in university and then business or professional life.

Let's begin with Campus Etiquette.

Be sure to arrive on time for all your classes. It is impolite to be late, so on the rare occasion that you are late for class, be sure to apologize to the professor on the way in and seat yourself with as little interruption as possible.

Stay for the duration of the class. Walking in and out of the room (to make a phone call or use the bathroom) disrupts the class. Avoid any such disruptive behavior.

If you have a cell phone, turn it off before your class starts.

Do not sit with your friends and talk or send notes back and forth during class. Disruptions are extremely rude and cast you in a very poor light.

If you know that you must be absent from a class, it is a good idea to notify the faculty member in advance and ask for the assignment. Professors are conscious of who is there and who is not. Extend the courtesy of letting your professor know you will be out. If the emergency arises suddenly, you should leave a voice mail message on the professor's extension or in the department office.

When you make an appointment-with a professor or advisor-be on time. If you need to cancel that appointment, do so by telephone in advance of the hour and with an apology.

Before you enter a professor's office, knock gently and ask whether you may come in. It is not always easy to judge whether someone is busy or not. Ask. Sometimes a person is engaged in a train of thought that needs to be completed before he or she is free. Never walk into a professor's office without first simply asking whether you may come in, or whether this is a good time to talk for awhile. Most professors will be glad to see you and help you, especially if you respect their private office space. The same rules may be applied to secretaries, advisors, business offices, Deans offices, etc. It's always a good idea to announce yourself and ask whether you may come in.

You may have made that appointment because you are having trouble in the class or because you need an extension on an assignment/paper/exam. Rules of etiquette can help you gain the time or extension that you need.

Ask for an extension politely and in advance of the due date. Some professors will not allow any late submissions at all. You have the best chance of getting an extension if you ask for one in advance and explain why you need it.

This rule also applies to taking exams. You should always be prepared to take an exam on the scheduled date. Many professors do not offer make-up exams. "I missed it because . . . " will not always find a sympathetic ear. So, if you are not prepared for an exam or will not be able to take it on the scheduled date (you might be away with a team, for example), you will need to negotiate an alternative with your professor in advance of the due date.

This may sound obvious, but know your professors by name. Students often drift into a departmental office and ask for "the bald teacher," or "the lady with the glasses." Indeed, students sometimes get through an entire semester without knowing the names of their professors. This is never the sign of a great student. If you see yourself in this mirror, you need to work on becoming more engaged in your own education.

When you address your professor, use his or her title. Dr._____ indicates that the professor has a Ph.D. degree. Professor is a general term that may be used for any member of the faculty (including Drs.), so it is always safe to call a teacher.

Professor ___. Mr. , Mrs. or Ms. Are also polite expressions, but they apply more to business than teaching, so you might want to use these terms to address staff. Now, here is an exception. Many faculty in the Arts work with students on a mutual first name basis. If your profess says you may call him Frank, then do so. Before you consider addressing a faculty member by his or her first name, be sure that is the etiquette established by the professor. Title are also important in many businesses, and therefore when you go for interviews you should also be extremely conscious of how people introduce themselves to you and how they expect to be addressed.

Here are some more suggestions for polite behavior that will be useful on campus as well as in business. We can call this category General Etiquette.

Use a firm handshake. When you meet someone for the first time or when you conclude a meeting, it is customary to shake hands. Don't be a weak fish!

Dress appropriately. Campus life is extremely informal and generally so is student dress. You might notice, however, that the business faculty tends to formality in order to prepare students for the working world. If you want to be noticed in that environment as a student to be recommended, you might want to present a neat and business-like appearance. Use your judgment. Context is the key! If, for example, you are getting an award, then dress for the ceremony. It is always polite to ask about appropriate dress in advance of an occasion. Whenever you are not sure, ask. Dress for business when you go for an interview. This rule applies to Pre-Medical Committee interviews as well as business, internship, graduate school, etc.

Send thank you notes to people who have given you assistance. This is a dying art, and sending the note will be appreciated. The receiver will remember your kindness.